Entry for October 17, 2007

If you think you've not married your soul mate, don't just walk away from the relationship for that reason alone. Spend some time getting to know yourself a bit better first. You can't find your soul mate if you haven't found yourself.

Did you marry your soul mate?
Yes(89) 45%
No(48) 24%
Thought I did, but I was wrong(39) 20%
I don't believe in soul mates(18) 9%

Bottom line: Marrying a soul mate isn't necessary in order to have a successful and happy marriage.

Our Mirrors May Reflect:
Our Short Comings...
Magnified Pictures...
Repressed Emotions...

What You Need: to call it quits
Courage
Self-esteem
Self-respect
A Plan
Realistic Expectations
Honesty

Warning Signs of an Emotional Affair
You are withdrawing from your spouse.
You are preoccupied and daydream about your friend more and more.
You are not interested in being intimate with your spouse, either emotionally or sexually.
The amount of time you and your spouse spend together is less.
When confronted about the apparent emotional affair, you respond, "We're just friends."
You find yourself anticipating when you can communicate or be with your friend again. Alone time together is important to you.
You are sharing your thoughts, feelings, and problems with your friend instead of your spouse.
You find reasons to give your friend personal gifts.
Your friend seems to understand you better than your spouse does.
You are keeping your friendship a secret from your spouse.

One of the differences between a platonic friendship and an emotional affair is that an emotional affair is kept secret.
Sometimes the sexual attraction is acknowledged, and sometimes it isn't.
http://marriage.about.com/od/infidelity/ss/emotionalaffair_6.htm

Is an emotional affair wrong?
Yes, an emotional affair can seriously compromise a marriage
(7376) 75%
No, an emotional affair doesn't involve sex, so it can't be wrong.
(1406) 14%
I'm not sure.
(1016) 10%
Total Votes: 9798