Entry for October 16, 2007


the grief cycle:
*denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance
*Shock and denial
*Volatile Reactions - "Whenever one's identity and social order face the possibility of destruction, there is a natural tendency to feel angry, frustrated, helpless, and/or hurt. The volatile reactions of terror, hatred, resentment, and jealousy are often experienced as emotional manifestations of these feelings."
*disorganisation and despair
*deorganisation

Once a cup is cracked, it is hard to mend. Water may still leak out from the cup if it is not mended properly. Crack lines can still be seen and using the cup everyday reminds you of how the cup was being broke. However, you never throw the cup away for your own reason(s. - quoted by peace bella

While the experience of grief is a very individual process depending on many factors, certain commonalities are often reported. Nightmares, appetite problems, dryness of mouth, shortness of breath, sleep disorders and repetitive motions to avoid pain

How to Overcome Sadness and Grief?

Do not try to contain or hide your sadness and grief. Cry out your pain, shedding tears cleanse and relieve from pain. Pray out your grief to get peace.

Continue with your life by following the same routine as you used to be before. Or, you can consider doing what you wanted to do for years.
If you have lost a loved one, first know the fact that he or she wants you to carry on your life happily.

Be here or there, he or she wants you to do the best.
You may have lost your loved one, but not your love. Remember - as long as your love is alive your loved one will be alive and he or she will be with you. Never say that you have ‘lost’ your loved one.


Helping someone suffering from sadness and grief feel better is the best way to make you happy and contented. Believe what you give out into the world comes back ten-fold. Always be ready to extend the love and help to another.
For some people, the best way to relieve sadness and grief is finding their own spirituality.

Attending prayers, hearing to spiritual songs and watching spiritual videos help a lot.

or
"Why do women go back to their cheating husbands?"
Because their desire to not be disrespected was stronger than their faith in love.

Friendship and bonding may be a reason why women want to remain with husbands who cheat.
because they are smart and realize that going back might make them stronger.
went back to my husband because I really loved him. I stepped out on faith, and I was really believing God to fix the situation, but needless to say I went through all kinds of mental torment with my husband after everything was all open.
I hated him, even though I stayed with him. I secretly rejoiced when he was miserable, I really hated him

NEVER, ever trust him again like you did before